A Different Work-Home Life

This week has started off very differently for a number of reasons. I quit my academic job in late 2018 for many different reasons, but a major driver was wanting to spend more time being able to spend more time as a lead parent. And, for a while, this plan was going well. Arrangements altered in August 2019, but they really changed in early 2020 when it was clear that the pandemic was happening and possibly imminent onshore. My accumulation of skills and knowledge needed to be put to good use, so I stepped out of the lead parent role and my wife took this back on again. Without her sacrifice and support for our family in a myriad of different ways, there is no way I could have done all my work over the past 18 months. And for that, I am truly grateful.

But this week, things have changed again. Yesterday, my wife returned back to work for the first time in two years. I have stepped back into more of a lead parenting role – this time with three children, instead of two. And of course, our youngest develops chicken pox just when this happens, meaning that her planned extended kindergarten days are not possible, as she remains in quarantine at home this week.

The regular domestic challenges perhaps?

Yes, life goes on – goals evolve

But day-today life continues, ever-changing. For my work, this means a couple of things which might be worth knowing for you. 

First, I’ll be working fewer hours. If you’d like to talk to me about some work you’d like me to get involved with; such as projects, advice, strategic communications, public speaking, and even media appearances or commentary, it would be great if you could reach out to me early. I’d love to help you if the fit is right for me (and for you) but my time is limited.

Second, I’ll be working on a system where you’ll be able to book up to 30 minutes of time with me, online, for an initial consultation on your project. Please note, I am not doing therapeutic consultations right now, or for the foreseeable future. 

Third, I’m looking for select opportunities to work with organisations at an advisory level where I can make my skills and experience count. For the right organisations, I’m happy to look at occasional advice being pro-bono. Please get in touch if you’d like to talk about an opportunity, or pass the message on to anyone you think might benefit. 

I love my work.

I’m honoured and privileged to do the work I do – and I recognise that it’s not been an ordinary path for a psychologist to take. But I’ve also been struck by how many of my contemporaries have recently been diagnosed with serious health conditions. This is causing me to pause and reflect upon exactly how I spend my time and energy now, and to plan how I do this in the future.

I suspect that a pillar of this will be to spend less time working

One thought on “A Different Work-Home Life

  1. DK says:

    Big fan of this approach and we all could flourish more by prioritising time for family, friends, mental health and creative endeavours 🙂

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